Troubled Relationships

Disclaimer:  The statements below are not mere opinions, but facts from the Good Book. If you do not want to know the truth, Do Not Open. If opened and read, I am not responsible for any debates, anger, broken relationships, or animosity. Please take that up with the Lord our God. :)

In our modern world today, we can all agree there is SO MUCH going on, some of it being out of our control; MOST of it is. I am not one to judge, but one to bring light to those around me. After all, isn't that the task given to us by Christ Jesus? (Matthew 16:15)

What is a relationship? It is the state of being connected (related, parallel, linked). It bonds two people together, humanly speaking. But what kind of bond should we have? The world today makes relationships something disturbing, invalid, and immoral. Should I elaborate? I really don't have to because we see it and live it everyday...YOU NAME IT.

There has been some controversy about what should happen in a relationship, or what the ideal relationship should be like. I will display two different views in the form of a lie and one in the form of TRUTH.

Worldly Lies: have sex to express your love, move in to test it out, share all of your secrets, do everything married people do before you even get married.

Truth: wait until you are married to express your love through sex (1 Corinthians 7:1-3), wait until you are married to move in together for this is God's design (Genesis 2:24), avoid temptation and fornication with one another. (Proverbs 5)

God has a beautiful design for relationships and marriage. If we trust  Him to work everything out and stop trying to work them out ourselves, we will experience this beauty. (Jeremiah 29:11) We don't have to move in together to "test" each other out, we don't have to have sex, we don't have to completely give ourselves away to anyone but the Lord. My favorite quote I've read is, "A woman should be so wrapped up in the Lord  and praising God, that a man will have to go to the Lord to find her there." I think we forget that we are not alone to figure all of this out!! We don't have to be unsure, heartbroken, and lost, that is something you choose! God knows what he has for us just as Jeremiah 29 says. There has also been some controversy about "praising boyfriends". As the quote says, you should be praising God. It's OK to be thankful for your boyfriend, but think about why you're doing it... is it because of the worldly lies? Your boyfriend isn't obligated to do anything for you except pay for all of the dates and show you why he's good enough to be your husband. A boyfriend should not be providing you a place to stay, a car to drive, giving you sex when you ask...NO. That is not God's design, when you are dating you should be getting to know each other as well as growing to LOVE each other respectfully that will lead into marriage. Don't give your boyfriend/girlfriend a spouse role, what is the point in marrying them if you already have it all? He is not your "everything". Remember God is a jealous God and will destroy anything in his way!! (Exodus 34:14) God's design for love is wonderful, holy, and thriving experience and it has deep symbolism but that is for another post. ;)

Am I saying that I've done everything right? Of course not! There are some who have and I commend them for their righteousness. The Lord has saved me from my sin and worldly desires. Yes! If you want it, he will save you too! (John 3:17) You can turn from the worldly lies and sin and be transformed into a new person and you will receive the plan God has for you! (Romans 12:2) After all, we don't know the hour he returns (Mark 13:32-33) and we want our souls to be right!

Be careful where you get your advice, be careful who you are listening to! God's design is the BEST design. God bless you! (There's more to this story!! The scriptures above are only a small piece of God's word. Want to read more? view: Proverbs 5, 1 Corinthians 7, 1 Corin. 6:9-20.